Was discussing marriage on Facebook and a young lady, complaining about the idea that feelings might follow betrothal instead of preceding it, said, "I would rather be thirty and [unmarried]..." and I suddenly had an idea for a thought experiment. In it I try to present both views in their ideal form:
A fourteen year old girl is presented with two possible futures[1]:
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In the first she marries at fifteen[2] to a boy in her church, seventeen himself, who was eager for the blessings and responsibilities of marriage.
By age thirty she has eight children, all growing in Godliness. She has a husband who, according to I Cor 13, loves her. He cares for her in all appropriate ways, trains the children well, and he and they rise up to call her blessed.
Having married at fifteen and having their first child quickly after that, she never worked or got any kind of higher education except that which came from reading at home and teaching her children.
As far as Song of Solomon issues they came to their wedding bed both virgins and he was convinced that coming together with her was the best thing short of heaven. Even now, fifteen years in, he still calls her when on business trips and moans about how he would much, much, rather be in bed with her. They come together frequently, and neither one refuses each other.
Financially the road has been hard, but now that the children are starting to get older the oldest ones are becoming a help. They are not in debt but they did have have to live frugally several times.
They get along well with both sets of families, and have a normal amount of friends, etc. But she has never, ever, felt the kind of Romeo and Juliet feelings for her husband that some of her friends talk about having had for their husbands when they got married…
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In the second possible future the girl refuses this boy, because she didn’t love him. He goes on to marry another girl soon after.
Fifteen years later she is a successful career woman. She has lived frugally but well and now is not only out of debt but with a large savings account.
She completed her education and even did a bunch of continuing ed over the years and is a fairly accomplished artist on the side. She has thoroughly enjoyed her life up to now…
When she has met the man of her dreams. Besides being handsome, accomplished, and having a large savings account of his own… she is deliriously in love with him. All of the feelings that her friends have described over the years she has, in spades, redoubled and tamped down.
They met, fell in love, and are planning on getting married tomorrow. They both are looking forward to sex and the rest of their lives together…
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The fourteen year old girl is given the choice between these two futures. Biblically speaking, which one should she choose, and why? Chapter and verse if you can.
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[1] To avoid theological entanglements, I do not say how she is presented. For the purposes of the question you may assume it is God, an angel, or your favorite sci-fi trope. Not the point of the question :)
[2] We will presume this to be legal in this area and having the blessing of both sets of parents.
I was challenged, on line, to come up with references for the various bits of 'my' example. Being a good homeschooling father I assigned the task to one of my children :)
To be very clear these references are in answer to the following concept:
This young lady is presented with two choices. These two choices have different beginnings, and different endings. The passages we list here are Scripture passages that are designed to help the young lady choose between these two paths. We look at the various choices, and results, of the two paths and tried to find passages that spoke to that choice. If this young woman seeks to serve God, she seeks to do His will. She should find his will in the Scriptures. So, here are some Scriptures.
We are open to anyone adding to this list, or even providing a contrary list.
she marries at fifteen
Psa 78:63 The fire consumed their young men; and their maidens were not given to marriage.
Isa_62:5 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.
1Ti 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Num 30:3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father's house in her youth;
Pro_5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Isa_54:6 For the LORD hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.
Mal_2:14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
Mal_2:15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
By age thirty she has eight children
Psa_113:9 He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psa_127:3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psa 127:4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
Psa 127:5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
to a boy in her church
Gen 24:3 And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell:
He cares for her in all appropriate ways
Exo 21:10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.
1Ti_5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
trains the children well
Gen_18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
Deu_4:9 Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons;
she never worked or got any kind of higher education except that which came from reading at home and teaching her children
Tit_2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
they rise up to call her blessed
Prov 31
As far as Song of Solomon issues they came to their wedding bed both virgins and he was convinced that coming together with her was the best thing short of heaven. Even now, fifteen years in, he still calls her when on business trips and moans about how he would much, much, rather be in bed with her.
They come together frequently, and neither one refuses each other.
Song of Solomon, Proverbs 5, I Cor 7:3-5
Financially the road has been hard, but now that the children are starting to get older the oldest ones are becoming a help.
Psalm 127
But she has never, ever, felt the kind of Romeo and Juliet feelings for her husband that some of her friends talk about having had for their husbands when they got married…
Which is never listed in Scripture as a requirement.
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